Kicking out self-defeating thoughts!

No matter what our background is, whatever our experience of “family”, even if we haven’t got our “dream job” or a University Education, do we have to give permission to our past to chain us to negative thinking and limit our future? Could we choose to…


The desire to please can be over-rated!

When I left school and finished studying at College, I fell into a job in administration and worked with some very talented and interesting professionals. At that time, it was my job to ensure the paperwork was organised and that efficient systems underpinned…


How to get noticed by others as a grown up!

Sometimes, isolation is so real, on a bad day, when I look around it seems as if someone else is always prettier, younger, funnier, more experienced or qualified and more intelligent than me and I think “Hey, what about me…


How to find your way through your cluttered world!

1. Too many things shouting at me!

Even over the lockdown period, when I thought things might calm down a little, it seemed that demands on my time were only intensifying, why is this?

I had to sit down and really think about this! Perhaps, I have invited…


Life is so pressurised and busy and we feel as if there are not enough hours in the day and still it feels as if we are not being productive, why won’t people work harder and take some of the load? Leadership can be lonely — but does it have to be?

Do you feel guilty when you ask for help or perhaps think it is your job to come up with all of the ideas? Could your team be part of this exciting move towards a new future?

Is this really possible, I believe the answer is “yes”. …


Introduction: We are all so busy right now — yes, I know you think you are busier than anyone else but the truth is that everyone is under pressure and managing the same time each day as you. Perhaps if we can work smarter, not harder, we can build a…


Building resilience through prioritising

We are all overloaded and burdened with multiple demands on our attention and time. Today, we can make some small changes that will impact our direction and day-to-day experiences. We need to make a start, bring in some changes and we can work on it while…


When we ask anyone nowadays how they are, they all seem to respond that they are “so busy” and they are right, everyone is experiencing huge pressure — from online meetings, fighting with the email inbox, working on the huge To-Do list and even trying to keep others on task while remote working — all of this is the norm. What can we do to fight back and start to enjoy work and have something to look forward to in our spare time? How can we make headway with reducing our stress levels and developing our resilience?

Idea number 1: “Share the load to prevent stress build-up”.


Leaders and managers are shouldering so much pressure in the workplace, I think we would all have hoped for an improved work-life balance and the drop in tasks but strangely, the burden seems to be getting heavier. How can we find improved ways to work — none of us can work harder but can we work smarter?

I have been learning more about tools and methods that can help me — I run my own business, work full-time and also volunteer on the Trustee Board of a countywide charity and I am studying to raise my skills as a leadership coach — so like everyone else, I…


From time to time, we all have challenging encounters and the aim today is to think about how we could manage difficult conversations and gain positive outcomes with the right methods! …

Julie Buckingham

I am a solution-focused coach specialising in supporting leaders and managers in the voluntary sector and health and social care

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